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很久没有敲着键盘，写一篇像样子的博文了。

来美国大概即将四年了吧，昨天凌晨，自己开车送了我“儿子”回国，也突然觉得时间真快，以前那个被接机送机的我，如今也开始开车送起了别人，从前不喜欢开车的我，也开始开车上学上班了。

一转眼将近半个学期过去了，今天放下手中的代码，开始码下这篇文字吧，词穷了很多，因为很久不写文章了。（一月份过年写的文章，因为写了一半，写不下去之后，直接被我删了）

是的，我更新了！这已经是2016年的秋天了，来图森这是第三个年头，似乎2014年发生的一切都只是昨天的故事。

很久没有敲打键盘为了我的博客，很久没有去写什么中文的博客，就这样，一眨眼半年过去了，在美国一年多的时间也就那么过去了。上个月讲博客的程序换了，从jeklly转到了hexo，换成了我曾经熟悉的nodejs，这一年的时间内，技术的迭代日新月异，速度奇快无比，让我追得有些累和无奈。

我知道国内已经是冬日了，老家已经开始下雪，但是这里还可以穿着短袖体恤，所以就叫深秋吧。

来美国，让我重新对学习有了新的认识，现在的我越来越喜欢去整理，整理笔记，整理文件，整理知识点，也许这就是美国人的思维，从一堆杂乱无章的秩序里，找出你所需要的那几个条款，摆放整齐以备不时之需。

他们说，出来混得都是要还的

是的他们说的没错，曾经无忧无虑上了几年的高中，高考考不好也没在意，上了个大专，然而现在面对的则是，我认为是比高考还要难搞定的大学，朋友说上心就好，是啊，这上心上的很累。

最近四个月败了很多东西，按照日期来计算，首先是NAS，群晖DS415Play，UPS备用电源，R7000路由器，DELL U2415显示器，HHKB Type-S，Magic Trackpad，Bother扫描打印机，New 3DS XL……以及其他好用的软件……

In China, we had a Chinese folk tale that was classical. In the Chinese lunar calendar, on July 7th, so many magpies create a bridge for the weaver girl and the cow herder to date in the galaxy, so they just see each other during one year; consequently, they just miss each other. I think long distance relationships (hereinafter referred to as “LDR”) were a very common idea in ancient times. Currently, in the US, LDR are becoming ever more common. In 2005, approximately 3.5 million people in the US alone were involved in long-distance marriages (Long Distance Relationship Statistics). Five years ago, I always kept a LDR with my girlfriend, and that was a really bad experience for me, and affected my life for 5 years.

LDR can slowly devour your life. When we are LDR, we must face some problems, such as, we have different background in our cities, but your lovers live in different city, so they have different classmates, parties, society, even cultures. Also, we don’t have common topics with your lover, and slowly, you may be become unfamiliar with them because you don’t have topics to talk about, and communication is very import because that effects relationships, and finally, communication becomes less and less, even break up. Also, we are always alone, when we live a city and our lovers in another city, like me during those years, I always felt loneliness, and I didn’t have her with me to watch movie, or go to parties, also, for so many years I couldn’t even have a dinner date with her. To be honest, I’m loyal for the relationship, so I didn’t date other girls, I bear that, not only I hate that because LDR let us to feel what is missing and we couldn’t touch each other, but also I love that because she didn’t mind the long distance.

Furthermore, LDR always wastes time, money and affection. About 4 years ago, we promised each other that we would on a trip. After she went to other cities to study in the fall, on the day of the trip, I packed my luggage and I went to the bus station to wait for her, I remember I waited for her all afternoon. I thought she just is late, so I continued to wait for her, until the evening, I called her and she said, “I’m so sorry, I was busy, and I couldn’t get back home to go on the trip…” she explained to me, but I couldn’t hear her reasons. I felt very helpless, hopeless and sad. I was crying, and I said to myself, “Why did I do that? Why don’t I find another girl?” I gave up the idea because I thought she is my true love. After, when we enrolled university in China, we were living in separate cities again, so I took the train every weekend to visit her. I spent about 5 hours for a round-trip, also, when I arrived her city’s train station, I needed to take to a bus to her university and it was a 2-hour bus ride, I always felt tired every weekend. Nonetheless, I couldn’t stop because I missed her, and we liked walking in the park and chatting every weekend. “The trip” continued for a year, until I came to the US. I probably calculate “the trip” spending time approximate 288hours ((five hours + four hours) * eight months (except summer vacation & winter vacation) * 4weekends), this doesn’t include to going the train station from my university, I think I’m crazy, but I just keep the relationship. I am hardworking but and I have wasted a lot of time.

In addition, we can’t give attention to my job and study when we are LDR. According to 200 pairs of couples statistics (Long Distance Relationship Statistics), average number of phone calls once every 2 days, average length of phone calls 30 minutes, average number visits is 1.5 times per month, etc. I think the statistics is very old because that from 2005, maybe, now every average numbers are growing because science and technology has changed, and automobiles and airplanes are faster and faster, so the number visits may be become 1.5 times per week. When we focus on her what how to visit her and what time to visit her, I believe us that we can’t pay attention to our jobs and study; for example, currently, I need to talk to my girlfriend on FaceTime for 1 hour per day, because of jet lag, I just talk with her in the night, and I usually study at night, so I can’t stop talking and I can’t stop studying. Sometimes, I write essays while my girlfriend is talking to me, so I just break my studying and to talk with her. These problems plague LRD lovers.

My girlfriend and I are apart 6,975 miles, but I believe I can shorten this long distance. I believe technology can shorten this long distance. I believe that when we have the experience and get married that will be genuine love. I advice you to don’t choose LDR because it will deplete your determination.

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References

1.Long Distance Relationship StatisticsRetrieved April 9, 2015 from Waiit <http://www.waiit.com/Long_Distance_Relationships_Statistics>

第一次去见风投，为了梦想去了洛杉矶，和朋友一起，想想过去的日子，荒废和颓废，联系了国内的朋友用了几周的时间做了个demo，就这样带过去了，结果几位大牛见了就说，demo不重要，重要的是你想好你要做什么了吗？你想好是什么模式了吗？嗯，就是我学到的。

时间流逝如此之快，让我抓不住他的头与尾，当我回过神来之时，他就不见了。回顾我的2014年，只觉得匆匆间，就消逝了。

眼看着大学生涯还没开始就要结束了 不管怎么说，这两年时间收获了不少，目前身处合肥，在科大讯飞教育进行着培训课程。

现在是北京时间2013年12月9日6:22 一大早被闹铃叫醒，为了赶去学校升旗，因为今天是12.9，外面起了雾霾，刮着大风，不知道能不能坐到车到校。 最近天身体挺疲惫了，就像去年的我一样，freshman，什么也不懂，但却如同水牛一般不断地耕作，为了可能是今后吧。希望努力没有白费。